After one very bad argument with my wife which led to a temporary separation I realised I had an anger problem which needed dealing with. I was recommended to John by a friend and, after four appointments, the problem has been solved - hopefully for good. What I thought was an anger problem turned out to be something else - poor communication on my part, as well as my wife's. John taught me how to speak clearly when irritating problems came up, instead of ignoring things and letting the anger build up until it turned into rage. My wife also came to see John for two sessions and we now have a much better relationship. We also really enjoyed the sessions with John. In fact, during most of my sessions with him I was constantly laughing - he really does have a great sense of humour! Mr TL Surrey


Hi John. Just to say I have finally stopped using heroin after our sessions together. As you know I succeeded in getting my intake down from 140mg to 30mg over the past few years but just needed a little extra help and a few  pushes from you to give it up for good. Your addictions 'grid' is excellent and I keep it by me every day. That helps me notice when I am stressed and to keep a sharp look out for the triggers and the danger-zones to avoid in order to stay clean. I will be moving to the USA next September and I am so relieved that I can start a new life without this curse hanging over me. All the best.  Mr AW  London


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Moving out of personal problems or moving forward to greater success nearly always entails finding a better way to communicate with other people: partners, family, and people who work for you, with you or above you. Good communicators are influential people: empathetic, assertive and clear about what they want. 

Influencing skills nearly always crop up in my work with clients and I have evolved a simple model for communication - Even Cod Need Air which you can read about on my blog here.

You can also find out more about my take on Influencing Skills by reading my 2002 book on the subject here.


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